“Read the unspoken needs that are more than skin deep” Don Juan was a master of knowing a woman’s needs even before she expressed them. He was not just interested in hearing himself talk, but in listening to the words and the emotion behind the words. Don Juan in the 21st Century: If your partner is saying you work too much, is she really feeling lonely or unloved? Perhaps you know something that she has been wanting and can surprise her, or can fix something of hers that has broken. A man who has been happily married for more than fifty years explained that he tried to do one nice thing for his wife every day—he was meeting her unspoken needs.