List Dump

“The heart is forever unfaithful and the feelings of love will come and go, but true love is not about what you feel, it is about what you do...and don’t do...” When the diary begins Don Juan believes that love is madness because it seems to come and go like all feelings, but eventually he discovers that love is not a feeling but an action—love is what we do and don’t do to one another. Don Juan in the 21st Century: It would be nice if we felt spontaneously loving toward our partner all the time, but this is impossible. True love is acting lovingly and speaking lovingly even when we want to bite the person’s head off. Sometimes all we can say to our partner is, “I want to be loving right now.” And sometimes all we can say is, “I want to want to be loving right now.”