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Don Juan’s top 10 Secrets from The Lost Diary of Don Juan
acoro started 1 year ago
The Secrets of the worlds greatest lover in obtaining and maintaining relationships. This list is full
A Woman’s Desire is Holy
“When a woman feels the fullness of her pleasure, her soul rises up above her body.” Don Juan knew that for this reason there is nothing more beautiful than a woman whose desire has truly been satisfied, for there is no physical form as radiant as the soul that dwells in every woman. Don Juan in the 21st Century: Don’t just hit the pillow after lovemaking. Hold your partner and stroke her body. Feel the sacredness of her skin and the soul that is emanating from her.
Contentment is the Only Guarantee of Fidelity
acoro submitted 1 year ago | tags: fidelity + relationships + excitement + satisfaction
“The only certain promise of a wife’s chastity is her contentment, and it is this and only this that has led to my advances being rebuffed by the few fortunate wives that I have met.” Don Juan made a career out of seducing maidens and wives, and he said that the only secret he used was a woman’s own unquenched thirst for life. Everyone longs for experience, for excitement, for satisfaction. Don Juan in the 21st Century: Lifelong devotion is not easy. Some will argue that our biology makes it extremely difficult to stay faithful to one other person. And the statistics today might support that conclusion: more than half of all couples are divorced by their 15th anniversary. But if staying happily and passionately married for a lifetime is one’s goal then it requires passionate effort and compassionate concern. Find out what your partner really wants out of marriage—and out of life—and help her get it.
The Divine Secret
Seduction and passion are simply Life longing for Life. It has so little to do with our fears and faults. When we discover this Divine Secret, we realize that we are far less than we ever feared and far more than we ever imagined. The greatest misstep in the dance of courtship is to believe that it is our charm or beauty that is ultimately in question in this ancient fertility rite. Life uses us for its own satisfaction, and when we surrender to its will, we become a part of every kiss whether or not it is made with our lips and of every caress whether or not it is made with our fingertips. Don Juan in the 21st Century: What is it that holds you back from approaching a woman and revealing your heart? Is it the fear that she will reject you? When you realize that this dance of courtship is impersonal and does not judge the dancer than you can be bold, for you realize that you have nothing to lose. Her rejection is simply a statement of her need, not your inadequacy.
Love is Not a Feeling
“The heart is forever unfaithful and the feelings of love will come and go, but true love is not about what you feel, it is about what you do...and don’t do...” When the diary begins Don Juan believes that love is madness because it seems to come and go like all feelings, but eventually he discovers that love is not a feeling but an action—love is what we do and don’t do to one another. Don Juan in the 21st Century: It would be nice if we felt spontaneously loving toward our partner all the time, but this is impossible. True love is acting lovingly and speaking lovingly even when we want to bite the person’s head off. Sometimes all we can say to our partner is, “I want to be loving right now.” And sometimes all we can say is, “I want to want to be loving right now.”
The Most Pleasure
“There was more pleasure in one kiss from the one I loved than a thousand nights with a stranger” Our society tries to sell us endless novelty and to tell us that what is new is always better than what is known, but Don Juan discovers ultimately that the marriage of lust and real love is much more pleasurable than lust alone. Don Juan in the 21st Century: Today so many people are being pulled away from their partners by Internet sex sites and chat rooms, the constant flow of colleagues at work, but ultimately bodies are just bodies. What electrifies skin is emotion.
The Unspoken Needs
“Read the unspoken needs that are more than skin deep” Don Juan was a master of knowing a woman’s needs even before she expressed them. He was not just interested in hearing himself talk, but in listening to the words and the emotion behind the words. Don Juan in the 21st Century: If your partner is saying you work too much, is she really feeling lonely or unloved? Perhaps you know something that she has been wanting and can surprise her, or can fix something of hers that has broken. A man who has been happily married for more than fifty years explained that he tried to do one nice thing for his wife every day—he was meeting her unspoken needs.
The Way to Touch a Woman
“There is a way to touch a woman that takes from her like a thief who steals her soft beauty, and there is a way to touch a woman that gives to her, changing her body into a treasure for her to cherish.” Don Juan was a master of touch. He knew that everything could be said in one’s fingertips. The fingertips are the paintbrushes that we use on our partner’s body; use them to make a work of art. Don Juan in the 21st Century: When you touch a woman’s body, don’t grope, don’t grasp like a thief, but approach like you are about to touch a sacred chalice. Linger and wait, so that every touch is anticipated and demanded.
Anticipation is everything
acoro submitted 1 year ago | tags: anticipation
“I speak first to her mind, the organ so undervalued by most men, and through her mind to her loins, which have a will of their own, just like a man’s.” Don Juan was a master at leading the imagination before the body. As he is seducing the King’s daughter at the beginning of the novel, we see how he seduces her mind before he seduces her body. Don Juan in the 21st Century: Use words to describe what you might do and when you do it, wait, linger, and only then do it.
The One Thing All Women Look for in a Man
acoro submitted 1 year ago | tags: women + confidence + fears
“All women look for one thing in a man above all others—Confidence. Not pride or arrogance—just confidence.” A woman’s life and that of her children have throughout history depended on a man’s skill, so women have always looked for men who exude confidence like women exude perfume. Don Juan in the 21st Century: The only way to gain confidence is to face one’s fears. Try the things that scare you. As Don Juan says to his coachman, who is terrified of women, “Fear is a thief. It will steal your life.” A calm self-assurance goes a long way.
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The Way to Make a Woman Yours
“Every woman, no matter how indifferent and how beautiful, longs for love and admiration. If you show her the consideration that she lacks, she will be yours.” Don Juan knew that there is nothing more seductive than being loved, valued, and admired. If you give a woman the love and consideration that she needs, she will be yours, or if she already is yours, she will stay yours forever. What does it mean to show a woman consideration? The woman who teaches Don Juan the Arts of Seduction explains, “Show her that she is more important than anything in the world, admire her, speak to her with gentle words, and listen to her…” Don Juan in the 21st Century: Most men think that seduction is about what they say; but in truth it is about what they hear. Seduction is about listening more than speaking. It is about honoring a woman in every way. This is also true for keeping a woman that is already yours. Ask yourself how do you speak to your partner when she calls you at work? Do you say, “Yeah?” or “Hello, my love…” Work, chores, children all pull us away from our partners, so find a time once a week—a date night—to fawn over her, to kiss her, to be more than co-parents, co-home owners, and business partners, to be lovers again.
